Like everyone else, I’ve been feeling the pressures of blogging and book reviewing which I’ve covered in several of my previous discussion posts.Steph @ These Paper Hearts also shared a post on bloggers needing to take a chill pill. It turned out I wasn’t only feeling this way about blogging, but about everything in my personal life as well.
Such as where I am in life, in comparison to my friends who own houses, are engaged or married. Why I haven’t seemed to complete all of my work priorities. Why my TBR pile is so large. Why I can’t seem to lose that last bit of weight. It’s always a question of “why aren’t I doing things better” and there’s 2 things I can attribute to it 1) comparing ourselves unnecessarily to others, and 2) the only ones placing us under this amount of pressure is ourselves.
It seems quite simple that we shouldn’t be comparing ourselves to others. After all, we all have people we aspire to become or look up to as a measure of success. It’s a healthy thing to work harder with that goal in mind. What it shouldn’t be however is feeling bad or sorry for myself because I can’t do everything and I’m not someone else. Everyone’s journey is different, everyone has completely different circumstances to me. The only person I should be comparison myself to is the person I was yesterday or even a year ago, because as my work team’s mantra is: Focus on Progression and not Perfection. That is the more realistic path.
No one else is placing this amount of pressure on myself. And no one else is placing this amount of pressure on anyone out there for blogging, reading, exercising, or whatever it is. Even if they are, you are in control of how you react, whether you stress about it, do something about it, or ignore it. When your head is too deep in self pity, it’s hard to pull your head out and realise that you are in control of your life. You are the one who chooses to feel this way. You are the one who can take the steps to achieve what you have in mind. And you can make mistakes. No one is there calling you out.
Thank you to two amazing friends who realised I haven’t been myself lately and helping to pull me out of my funk. I learnt that the pressure was all in my head and got a good wake up call and now I can focus on what’s important.
I hope this post helps someone out there! Here’s some motivations to tie off:
Do you find yourself comparing yourself to others? How do you cope with the pressures of life?