Chatterbox: Criticism between bloggers – We’re all in this together

June 6, 2014 by Jeann @ Happy Indulgence | Books, Chatterbox, Features

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How often is it that you see people focusing on the negatives on social media and in conversation, rather than talking about something positive to their day? Humans tend to gravitate towards negativity and that’s how they connect with each other, because if we focus on the positives in our lives, we might create jealousy or we might seem like we’re bragging about ourselves too much and seem unlikable.

It is basic human nature to focus on the negative and let off some steam by complaining about it or offering some criticism for people to do better. I’m guilty of it myself, as you see me complaining about the bus or people in public, or my pet peeves on Twitter.

But when it comes to my fellow bloggers however, I prefer to offer support and encouraging comments rather than criticism and how people can do things better. We’re all only human and are fully aware that our blogs could always be improved. We don’t need someone pointing out our mistakes, our typos here and there or how our current review is incoherent because we’re raving or ranting too much. Especially if those mistakes are personal preference.

Focusing on things about others that you don’t like probably reflects the unhappiness within yourself, because you need to point out what others are doing wrong to feel better about yourself. It shows a sense of self awareness, because instead of laughing at your own mistakes, poking fun at yourself or connecting with others and and saying “yes I made that mistake”, or “I could have did that better”, or “I do that all the time myself”, you’re pointing out what they are doing wrong. How crappy would your day be if someone did the same to you? And who is to say whether they are doing things wrong or right? Even if you have heaps of followers, chances are a blog that is completely different to yours and does things in a different way can offer conflicting advice.

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Blogging is that it is based on self-expression and people’s blogs are as individual as their personalities themselves, and no one person is the same. I’m pretty sure if everyone followed each other and had exactly the same type of blog, that would make things really boring quickly.

I guess what I’m trying to say, is that while it’s okay to offer suggestions for other bloggers,  tips and tricks on your discussion posts or even share your own experiences and what’s worked for you, it’s not okay to come in and point at people and offer unsolicited advice because they’re not doing something the way you prefer or like. I see this happening all the time, and it makes me sad, because some people think they are in some sort of blogging nirvana entitled to criticising others. If we looked a little harder, there is always something that we can improve about ourselves, putting aside follower counts, number of review copies, or the length you’ve been blogging.

This is a community, let’s support each other. I’m pretty sure if you looked at each individual blog and read their current post, there would be something nice you could say about it. Let’s focus on the positives, because then in turn, positivity is what you will get in return.

What are your thoughts on receiving criticism in blogging?

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103 responses to “Chatterbox: Criticism between bloggers – We’re all in this together

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  2. I think everyone is the same Ana, as long as you can pick and choose what advice you take on board and what you don't. It definitely does depend on the delivery I think, as long as we can all play nice then it would be fine.

  3. Awh! Such a perfect post, Jeann. It's so important, too! Negativity is not needed – especially in such a sensitive field where creativity is on the line.

    I totally agree with helping bloggers out when they want it, but unwanted criticism can be daunting and day-ruining.

    Remember when I had that mini freak-out about my blog being too zoomed in? That was all because of one post looking at the negatives of other blogs. I didn't find that post helpful. It made me panic and cause some serious unwanted and unneeded emotions.

    Thanks for the amazing post, Jeann!
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    • Thank you Brea, definitely important to remind everyone to stay positive I think. You are so right tying it in with our creativity, we don't want to second guess ourselves because of negative posts. No problems!

  4. You have got such a great point there. We do need more positivity. Thankfully I don't know of or witness much of the drama because many of the bloggers I follow dont seem to end up mixed up i. Stuff so I can be rather oblivious of it. I think feedback is nice, when it sounds snotty I think I might take offense but I don't think Ive had any yet thankfully!
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  5. I know I'm not the best at receiving criticism, but it really depends. In terms of blogging things, I'm okay with things like making the experience better for my reader. Like, maybe changing the font/colours of my site to make it more user-friendly and less eye strain.

    It also depends on the delivery. I'm more open to criticism that isn't "Your reviews are stupid!" If the person would kindly tell me what exactly they have problems with in my reviews, I'm more okay with that. If the thing being criticised is a feature that I really like on my blog, then I'm also less open to it. Like, if someone were to come up to me and go "You're a BOOK blog! Stop blogging about non-bookish things and interviewing people about non-bookish interests!" I would probably tell them that if they don't like it, there are many other book blogs out there.

    It's so much better when a community is there to support each other. 😀 Love this post!
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  6. Great post. I really agree with you. I want to be friends with all bloggers, because I think we all love books. But I would never expect anyone to blog the same way I do. Or like all the same books I do. That's why there are so many different books out there! I sometimes ask for advice or things people would like to see on my blog. But seriously, if it's not something I'm comfortable doing, then I probably won't change it. Love this post!
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  7. I totally agree with you, Jeann. I think it's best to just spread the positivity. I dislike those blog posts that tell you what to do because our blogs are our own thing and no one should dictate on how to run it. I'm sure not everyone would love all your posts. It is in fact hard to please everybody. But it doesn't mean you have to change yourself if you greatly enjoy what you're doing. Though I do appreciate the tips and tricks some bloggers talk about when they relay their experiences. I think those help a lot of new bloggers. 🙂
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  8. I'm not sure what prompted this post, but I heartily agree with it. Unless it's a clear situation of wrongdoing (plagiarism, selling ARCs, etc), I don't think it's anyone else's business how someone else blogs. Thoughtful discussion, friendly advice if you know the person, sure–I think that's how we learn and evolve as bloggers. But I see a lot of people trying to police other people (and used to be at the center of that, HELLO, TROLLS), and few things get my feathers ruffled more than that.
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  9. I'm against it. And not just b/c I don't always handle it well, LOL. I haven't seen much of this, and I'm grateful for that, b/c it's a shade too close to bullying . . . I mean, really? What kind of person thinks it's their place to tell someone else how to do something that is essentially an exercise in creativity. It makes me want to jump on my desk and tear out the Dissecting Poetry unit from the text a la The Dead Poet's Society. Unless someone asks you for your opinion, if it's negative . . . "if you can't say something nice . . . "
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    • Yeah, I guess if it can be taken in the wrong way then people should be sensitive about going there you know? I see it happen on Twitter a lot, not so much people's blogs thankfully.

  10. I think those posts are great for giving us new ideas, definitely. But it's not really cool when it's intended as an attack on people just because of your personal opinion, you know? Thanks Lexxie!

  11. Thank you Pili! I think we have to be very aware about how we phrase things because on the internet, it's hard to read what people really mean when they are sarcastic, etc. That's so true, I don't like to partake in those witch hunts on Twitter because I feel like they're really unfair.

  12. I know, I really think it's the type of people who you choose to interact with, but in a community, it's a bit harder that way. We should definitely support each other more instead of pointing out people's mistakes or what you would like done better. Thank you Tanja!

  13. I know, I wish everyone was sensitive towards what they said to each other because then people wouldn't get hurt otherwise, because sometimes it can be taken wrongly! BESIDES CAPTCHA. I'm always tweeting about how much I hate it XD

  14. That's actually pretty cool that they sent you what font that they prefer actually. I agree, it makes me happy that for the most part our community is very supportive of each other.

  15. You're so right about being positive, often people will pick on people who are positive all the time, and I think it stems from being insecure or wishing they could be as happy.

    Everyone does things differently and I think if someone really doesn't like a particular blog or way of doing something, they should just ignore it, not tell that person how they *should* be doing it. It's funny the things people will say, I look at negative comments on instagram and wonder how people can think it's ok to say some of these really nasty things 🙁

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  16. I totally agree!! I value constructive feedback and I much prefer to 'play' in a community that is supportive and friendly. I guess we all have our own nerdy, quirky way and it'll be sad if our blogs cannot reflect who we are. Thanks, Jeann!
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  17. Really, Jeann? You shouldn't use gifs in your posts. lol kidding. I don't think I've ever experienced that. I certainly couldn't imagine going to someones blog and criticizing the way they do something. I've let them know if something if off, images are overlapping, or something like that, because I'd hope someone would give me a heads up if it were on my blog. But as for the way the conduct their blog, not my business.
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  18. Wow…brilliant post Jeann! I absolutely agree! I'm all for positive feedback, but feedback intended towards bringing people down is never okay. It's also important to note that everyone has different personalities, and that everyone might take to criticism differently. One person might be a bit more sensitive and might feel a little hurt by the criticism, but another person might simply shrug it off.

    Thanks for sharing Jeann! <3
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    • Thank you Zoe, and the more positive feedback you offer the more you get in return, as well as when there are things that could be helpful, then you wouldn't take it as negatively from that same person, because you know they're just looking out for you.

  19. The closest I've come to being criticized was when I changed the font of my posts. A reader sent me an email asking me kindly to change it back to Georgia. I thought it was cool, so I did.

    I'm sure there is a great outbreak of this in our community, but for the most part, I think some bloggers are smart and civil enough to keep them under wraps…unless I've been much too oblivious lately.

    As for me, I don't have any problems receiving constructive criticisms as long as the person giving it to me has merits. You can't tell me how to run my blog the way you run yours. *shrugs*
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  20. Great points, can't avoid the haters though. But between you and I, I prefer the direct ones who hates openly than the ones who does it behind your back and try to "hate" in an indirect way. At least I know who to avoid, it's the backstabbers that we should be wary of.

    About positivity, I don't see why it's so hard for some people to pay compliments versus pointing out everything that's wrong about something. Makes me wonder what their definition of happiness is.
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  21. I remember receiving a straight out comment probably more than a year ago telling me that my "grammar is terrible just like this anime" I was reviewing. While I did frown at it at first, I just replied nicely and decided to take it positively (partially because I do know that I make a lot of mistakes).

    I don't think I give criticisms on bloggers about their writing because I believe that we each have our own way of expressing ourselves. I think that it's better to write in a way we're comfortable with because it allows us to have more fun in what we are doing~ nice post!
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  22. Yeah I definitely agree! People are all different, so we all prefer different things. It's definitely better to focus on the positives than just criticise other bloggers for doing things differently. 🙂 Or if you do make some suggestions, do it in a way that doesn't attack the person.

    That being said, there's one thing I sometimes tell other bloggers (once we're a bit more friendly), and that's to get rid of captcha. CAPTCHA IS THE DEVIL'S SPAWN. 😛
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  23. I saw some post and negativity between bloggers lately and honestly I'm so sad to see that. I'm afraid that people started to see this as a competition not as sharing your thoughts and enjoying meeting new people. We need to celebrate and support each other as we all share the same love. Yes of course there will always be someone ruin everything but we need to focus on beauty of this. Amazing post! 🙂
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  24. What a wonderful post, Jeann! And so many great comments too!

    I agree that we need to focus on the positives of blogging and giving advice, even if unsolicited can be helpful and welcome, depending how we phrase it and deliver it.

    That's not to say we shouldn't speak against some wrongs when they happen, but always always in a professional and kind way. Being hateful doesn't really do anything do to anyone.

    And even when we confront a big wrong (like selling ARCs of a book on eBay for hundreds of dollars, talk about wrong there!) we shouldn't threaten or hate on the person, it's always better to focus on the behaviour. And if it's something legally wrong, well go through the appropriate channels.
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  25. I love blogs that have 'advice' posts on their own pages, because it means that I can go look for specific things they think are cool or work well. And I can choose what advice I want to use, and what I don't think would actually work for me.

    It would not be cool, though, if someone came to one of my posts on my own blog, and let me know I had done this or that wrong :O That's just sad. Of course, we don't have to agree all the time, but there are ways to respectfully disagree. And also, even if I might not agree with someone, I don't feel like I have to let them know, either.

    Great post, Jeann!
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  26. Criticism is what we really do best, whether it be positive or negative and that's how we review. But we need to be mindful that when offering an advice, if we're not actually asked and take it upon ourselves to criticize, then I really can't see how it's helpful, only hurtful. For example, I might think that your post here could be improved on if you included a big glittery heading, your font should be purple and I don't like the way you respond to every comment (I must stress, not actually true), but what business is it of mine what you do on here? I liken it to telling a neighbour that her ass looks huge in those jeans, she'd be offended. Now if she asked how her ass looked, you could perhaps say that she looked great in the style of pants she wore yesterday. Big difference in my opinion.

    It goes without saying that we all have different opinions, but it's really how we express them. I don't believe in having an opinion and needing to share it, just because you can.
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    • I couldn't have said it better Kelly! As bloggers we are very mindful that what we say is in the public eye and that it can be taken the wrong way if we worded something too strongly or harshly. So we owe it to ourselves to make sure that it is okay before we release it to the outside world, as long as we are comfortable with what the post intends to say. And no, you wouldn't tell your neighbour something negative if they didn't ask for it. We can't remove ourselves from bearing that responsibility because when it comes down to it, we choose whether we want to be negative or positive, or whether we are just venting and being hurtful at the same time.

  27. As many others here, I don't mind criticism as long as it is not degrading. I am always open for discussion and improving myself. But when you start being condescending, that's where I will draw a line, because that's just not cool, dude. We're all here to share our opinions, to express ourselves without having to be judged by other people, and having someone tell me "you suck" in sugar-coated words is deflating. Make it encouraging instead, offer words of support, rather than saying, "Your posts aren't really that special. Here's why and what you should do about it." Ouch.

    In any case, having a blogger support group really helps. I'm glad that I have you all and that I met you, and I know if ever I need feedback, you all will only give me honest ones without being condescending. We're all in this together, and even though there are some rotten apples here and there, the community is still the best one I've been in for a long while. Thank you so much, girls! Thank you, Jeann!! *hugs*
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    • Thanks Faye, that's totally right. We are a community that should be encouraging each other and understanding that everyone is different, and if we don't like something, then we shouldn't be saying it in a condescending and negative way. I am so glad I have met many of you amazing bloggers, sadly there will be some here and there who don't have the same values. Thank you so much Faye *hugs*

  28. Being teachable is a great word, I'm going to start using that. It does happen in real life, social media, it kind of makes it annoying if you didn't ask for the criticism, no matter how constructive it is. I do think we should focus on positivity too, and if it's negative, turn it into something positive.

  29. That's true, everyone approaches blogging different and whatever works for them, you know. I'm glad you don't feel like you are 'blogging wrong' anymore 🙂 That's absolutely what matters.

  30. That's so true, I have read so many writers, published or independent offering unsolicited advice that it can seem overwhelming. When it comes down to it though, it's personal style isn't it? If everyone followed the same template it would be boring. Thanks Emily!

  31. Yeah, I actually read Slate's article and I didn't find it as controversial as everyone was making it out to be? The drama tends to get out of control sometimes, I think. It's great that you changed your design constructively, and it was up to you whether you followed their advice or not. It's just when people pointedly offer criticism that can be taken badly. Thanks Amanda!

  32. I didn't realise this was a thing. Why would anyone bother? I mean, if you don't like a blog, you don't need to tell the blogger how to fix it, you just stop visiting that blog if it is annoying you so much. And do people point out people's typos? seriously, who doesn't make typos?

    I'll only comment if I have something positive to say, what a waste of your own time to leave a negative comment. Blogs aren't books, they don't need to reviewed, unless that blogger has asked for suggestions on how to improve.

    I'm with you, let's support each other.
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  33. Melanie (YA Midnight

    Well said Jeann. I don't deal with criticisms well because I guess I am a bit of a perfectionist–but anyway, definitely agreeing with what you said. Book blogging is a hobby and no one is perfect!

    Lovely post! <33

  34. I don't think anyone should criticize anyone else's blog. They are the ones putting it together. They decide what content goes on it, they decide what it looks like. To me if you don't like it don't follow that blog. I know my blog was WAY different when I first started. Gaw it's embarrassing. I worked hard and kept learning and eventually it became what I wanted. If someone had been rude about it at the beginning I don't know if I would've continued.
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  35. Brilliant post Jeann! I offer tips and tricks and try to be ever mindful and remind people that one I am no expert, these are just things that work for me and most importantly that their blog is their baby and they should do things the way they want. I cringe when I see post or comments on Twitter handing out advise like its the law of the blogger universe. If we all uplifted and complimented one blogger today instead of judging well just imagine the power in that.
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    • Thanks Kimba! I really appreciate any tips and tricks coming my way, as long as it's given in an encouraging, helpful manner. THAT is totally what I mean. There is so much unsolicited advice and judgement going on Twitter even between us bloggers in our community that I wanted to stand up for us as a whole.

  36. I agree! The best thing about this community is the support you receive. I get sad hearing that some people are afraid to talk to/approach bloggers who've blogged for longer than them because they feel intimidated. We all started somewhere – how would you make friends (online and off) if you don't give it a go and start a conversation? I feel like the book blogger community is the most open and accepting community on the internet, everyone is so lovely so there's really no need to be scared.

    I'm all for criticism as long as it's beneficial rather than a "I know more than you, listen to me" situation. But at the end of the day, your blog is yours and yours alone. Do whateverrrr you want with it 😉
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    • I love this community that we all have and I am so glad everyone is supportive to each other. Definitely need to start somewhere! I'm not a fan of those types who think they know more than you and aren't open-minded about others.

  37. It depends on how the criticism is given and taken, I guess. Some people give constructive criticism in a manner that could be classified as bossy/pushy (like someone saying, "Your review is wrong. I think it should be [insert criticism here]"). Those are the ones I wouldn't take the time to check out, because we're a community and should be able to respect others. If criticism is given in a friendly and helpful manner, I always take them to heart and to make sure I tell them how I appreciated the help. 🙂 But we all definitely have to blog the way we want to. I wouldn't follow a blog if there isn't any personality in it! 🙂
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  38. I totally agree. A blog is such an extension of someone, we kinda put a piece of ourselves into it so when someone criticizes it you can't help but take it a little personally. I dislike those comments where they think they are being helpful but sometimes it comes off kind of cruel. We started these blogs to share our own personal thoughts so it bothers me when someone comes in and wants to change that. Great post!
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  39. So glad you posted this. Drama among bloggers, or between an author and a blogger, always twists my stomach in knots! I agree that people who are fixated on tearing others down might have issues themselves. These are my anti-drama resolutions. I try to keep them as best I can (and they spell drama — see?)

    Don't expect that everyone will agree with me or do things the way I want

    Resist the need to stir the Drama Pot

    Approach someone directly if I have an issue with them rather than talk behind their back

    Mistakes happen. Cut others some slack. We all mess up and you never know what someone might be going through in their personal life.

    Assume that others have good intentions until I have evidence otherwise.

    Great post!
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    • Thank you Jen, I was afraid it would be controversial but sometimes I just wish we could all be respectful towrads each other. I really loved your anti-drama resolutions, you should do a post on them!

    • I've had it directly and indirectly and I think I always take them to heart, but at the end of the day I think it's important to realise that it's your own thing and as long as you are proud of it then it's fine. That's very true.

  40. Well said! I recently came across a quote about opinions – I can't recall what it said, but it was somewhere along the lines that all great ideas started out as eccentric opinions…

    Personally I don't really mind criticism… not really. Unless it's delivered in a way that insults me. I mean, I know said person wants the best from me (maybe, though that's sometimes questionable) or they're just offering some advice that's hopefully helpful, but I'd rather not direct it in a way that could hurt someone.

    Although sometimes accidents happen. I hate it when I accidentally say something remotely wrong. >_< Being in 2 communities though, I find the book blogging community isn't as dramatic as the Twizard community. THANKFULLY.

    Great post, Jeann! :3
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    • Thank you Sophia. I don't mind criticism, as long as it's coming from a good place. I'm so glad that you haven't encountered as much drama, I see heaps of drama on Twitter lol. Thank you Sophia!

  41. I don't mind criticism, as long as it is delivered in a way that doesn't put down a person. (Yes, constructive.) I've never had issues with people telling me that my reviews are incoherent, or that my posts are boring. (Thank god!) We should always choose the kinder approach when telling someone anything that could cause negative feelings, may it be on their blog comments/emails or even on social media, like Twitter. We should promote positivity, rather than spreading negative vibes to everyone around us online and offline.
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    • Definitely constructive is better, but even sometimes constructive criticism can be taking the wrong way, especially if we're not looking at it. I am definitely down for promoting positivity 🙂

  42. Great post! I completely agree. I think we need to help each other out, not cut each other down. First of all, each blog is at the blog owners discretion. They can do what they like with it. If they come to someone asking for help, that is one thing but if people are just trashing the way they do things. That is not cool.

    I wish some people would be more supportive. I have never been on the receiving end of mean comments, but I have seen it happening on twitter, and social media.
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    • Thank you Michelle, in the blogging world it seems like drama is going to be inevitable because we are all so different. Social media is definitely where I see it happening the most.

  43. I haven't received that kind of criticisms, thankfully. But my bloggy friends are there, and sometimes when I do something wrong (like its genuinely my fault), I would not hesitate to see if I am wrong and try to change it. If I know i'm wrong, and if the criticism is something done out of care and concern, I don't see nothin wrong with that.

  44. The blogger world can be competitive and sometimes, not the friendliest place to be BUT it's up to the individual how she/he decides to handle what's happening. I've been lucky that I've not had to deal with that nonsense but I have felt the competitiveness and I made the decision to step back and just do what makes me happy, if people don't like it…no sweat off my back. If they like it, that's a bonus and something I don't expect or seek out. Again, I've been really lucky and I've met some really fabulous bloggers that have turned into wonderful friends. Great thought-provoking post Jeann! 🙂
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    • That's really true, it definitely is up to the individual to see how they deal. I'm glad you don't want to get involved Cristina, that's probably the best way so you don't get upset or affected by the drama. Thank you!

  45. Bravo! I don't really mind the criticism as long as they are constructive, when someone gives a suggestion about the blog I would definitely listen and see if it will make the blog better. As for reviews though, I never really had that experience of someone constantly nitpicking my review and telling me I could have written it better in another way, and I'm glad I haven't because that would just frustrate me. One's opinion doesn't make it THE opinion. Each one of us a can give something to the table as blogging is all about self expression. My reviews have always been based on the book and my review style varies with each book so I would never go and tell someone that they could have written their review/blog post better, it's their writing style, their blog, their self expression. Awesome topic Jeann! <3
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    • That's true, as long as it is something that you can either take or leave. I haven't had anyone nitpicking at my reviews either, and that I am glad about because they are always personal style, and I'm glad everyone is different in that respect. Thank you Amir! <3

  46. I don't believe there is anything wrong with constructive criticism, although, no one really likes to receive it of course, and we're all likely to have differing ideas on what counts as "constructive" criticism. Honestly, even though this post is suggesting a more positive approach, it is still in itself constructive criticism (criticizing the critics) – and that isn't a bad thing because sometimes constructive criticism can still be encouraging! When people nit-pick about things like spelling/grammar/ranting etc though – that's not necessary. Singling out specific bloggers is just cruel and bordering bullying. I did go on a rant on my blog recently – and yes, included some suggestions – which I'm going to be writing a follow up post at some point to clarify a few things because I know I offended some people, but if these things that are perceived as issues aren't addressed, sometimes the frustration can build into something far worse. The flip-side too is that I've received a number of emails from people saying that the post was helpful to them – different people perceive these things differently. Without such discussions, people who are perhaps stuck with their thinking won't get to see and try to understand the other persons viewpoint either. Discussion is important. I agree that it's also important to use positivity and focus on it as much as possible – but sometimes the negative needs to be addressed and not just swept under the rug (again, without singling specific people out). It never makes people happy, but sometimes can bring resolutions and/or understanding.

    This is a good post though 🙂 Positivity should definitely be encouraged and seeing as we all have different takes on things, we're all going to bring it to the community in different beneficial ways. I think particularly at the moment too, YA bloggers need to be banding together and utilizing the different strengths that we all have to fight this "anti-YA" idea that seems to have reared it's ugly head.

    When I say "fight" by the way… I mean peacefully, with our extraordinary wit, and our passion for YA ♥

    xxMillicent
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    • That's true, although sometimes in the blogosphere I see people singling out bloggers who did something wrong and it creates drama all the time, I wish there wasn't as much drama in the blogosphere. I'm glad you were able to speak your mind in your post, even though we did have different opinions when it came to that but when it comes down to it, we choose what we post on our blog and there shouldn't be anything wrong with that. The great thing about the blogosphere is that we are able to discuss so many different points between ourselves but as long as it is in a constructive, non hurtful manner, then there shouldn't be a problem with it.

      I do agree that we should stick to positivity instead of spreading negative thoughts and feelings. We really do need to be sticking together in the community because when it comes down to it, there are so many people around that will criticise us outside of the community (just look at the recent thing with Slate for example). Thank you for commenting on my post! 🙂

  47. I must be living under a rock because I have not seen this critical behavior that you're talking about at all. It must be more Twitter based since I don't spend a whole lot of time on Twitter, but I totally agree with you. Everyone is different and each blogger should be respected for what they bring to the table. (Although I'll admit it drives me crazy when I see typos in blog posts, but I keep it to myself).
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    • That's good Tammy, it definitely is Twitter based most of the time (and Goodreads sometimes). LOL I always notice typos in blog posts, but I try and forget about it and not point it out XD

  48. My blog is not huge and I can't recall any criticism except maybe about a book I featured that someone didn't like.

    Thanks for bringing up this topic. I've read criticism on other blogs and never understood why they felt the need to put someone down. As you say, we are all different and as such have different views and opinions and we are always growing.

  49. I'm not sure if I just haven't noticed this or if I pass of criticism as something else but I don't really see much of this. Is that weird? For the most part, I feel like bloggers are all really nice to eachother. However, I do see what you mean about 'there's only one way to do it'. Some posts could definitely make bloggers feel like they're doing something 'wrong' when really, blogging is just blogging. Everyone is here for different reasons and they should be able to express themselves however they want! 😀
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    • Not really weird, I see most of it happening on social media believe it or not. I'm glad that it doesn't happen much directly on people's blogs. That's true, we are all here for different reasons and with different ways to express ourselves 🙂

  50. I think this post is hugely important considering everything that's happening right now with Slate. For me, criticism is okay if it means I can help somebody's experience on my blog be better, for example, I used to have a lot of bright colours in my design and when reading another post about why people might be leaving, I changed it to it's current design and get more viewers and people who comment, or when people struggle to read something or find something because it's unclear, it means I can fix these things and make it more enjoyable for everyone, but it's when people just throw criticism out for the fun of it, to cause an argument or hurt somebody on purpose, that's when it's wrong on so many levels.

    Constructive = Yes. Cruel = No.
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  51. Too true! Some people use their blog as a form of journal, others a social tool, some for a profession; there are so many ways to use a blog and so many aspects of a person's personality that it can focus on, how can we judge the way someone else chooses to blog? Thank you for writing this. I always worry that maybe I'm 'blogging wrong', but at the end of the day my blog is just a way for me to inject my personality into my professional website; so as long as I think it ahows people who I am, I guess that's all that matters 🙂
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  52. It's exactly the same with writing. There are a million things people tell you to do/not do, but in the end there are so many different ways to approach writing that the advice becomes irrelevant. Same with blogging! I take the advice that is useful to me, but otherwise I just do what I think will be fun for me and for everyone else. In the end, blogging is a hobby, and I want to have fun while interacting with some other awesome bloggers 🙂

    Great post, I think it's good to remind us now and again that everyone's blogging style is different, and different =/= bad.
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  53. I'm not very good at receiving criticism at all…though I've learnt a lot about being teachable through writing and critique partners and stuff. But I feel like blogging is separate from that…just because, blogging IS a direct expression of yourself, right? And unsolicited advice is always awkward. >.< I've never <i> seen that happen in blogging, buuuuut it happens plenty in real life and drives me a little bonkers! People aren't very likely to take your advice unless they actually WANT it. Anyway. I agree! We bloggers should be supportive and not focus on the negativity (I mean, not ALL the time. Little bits is good and handy) XD. And I need to work on that for myself!!
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  54. Exactly the same! Plus, people have such different preferences that perhaps it doesn't suit for some readers, but why are they still following that blog? Or that twitter account? Like.. I just don't get this kind of stuff. Some people prefer more memes, some people prefer more reviews, some people crave originality, some people like to read reviews that are rantish and bashing. It's okay to like differents stuff, but I really dislike when someone says that you should do this or do that. If you say something I should do, you can almost always be guaranteed that I'll do the exact opposite just because. Such a great discussion and I agree: share love, not hate! We're all the same here so encouraging each other and being more positive is good for everyone.
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