How often is it that you see people focusing on the negatives on social media and in conversation, rather than talking about something positive to their day? Humans tend to gravitate towards negativity and that’s how they connect with each other, because if we focus on the positives in our lives, we might create jealousy or we might seem like we’re bragging about ourselves too much and seem unlikable.
It is basic human nature to focus on the negative and let off some steam by complaining about it or offering some criticism for people to do better. I’m guilty of it myself, as you see me complaining about the bus or people in public, or my pet peeves on Twitter.
But when it comes to my fellow bloggers however, I prefer to offer support and encouraging comments rather than criticism and how people can do things better. We’re all only human and are fully aware that our blogs could always be improved. We don’t need someone pointing out our mistakes, our typos here and there or how our current review is incoherent because we’re raving or ranting too much. Especially if those mistakes are personal preference.
Focusing on things about others that you don’t like probably reflects the unhappiness within yourself, because you need to point out what others are doing wrong to feel better about yourself. It shows a sense of self awareness, because instead of laughing at your own mistakes, poking fun at yourself or connecting with others and and saying “yes I made that mistake”, or “I could have did that better”, or “I do that all the time myself”, you’re pointing out what they are doing wrong. How crappy would your day be if someone did the same to you? And who is to say whether they are doing things wrong or right? Even if you have heaps of followers, chances are a blog that is completely different to yours and does things in a different way can offer conflicting advice.
Blogging is that it is based on self-expression and people’s blogs are as individual as their personalities themselves, and no one person is the same. I’m pretty sure if everyone followed each other and had exactly the same type of blog, that would make things really boring quickly.
I guess what I’m trying to say, is that while it’s okay to offer suggestions for other bloggers, tips and tricks on your discussion posts or even share your own experiences and what’s worked for you, it’s not okay to come in and point at people and offer unsolicited advice because they’re not doing something the way you prefer or like. I see this happening all the time, and it makes me sad, because some people think they are in some sort of blogging nirvana entitled to criticising others. If we looked a little harder, there is always something that we can improve about ourselves, putting aside follower counts, number of review copies, or the length you’ve been blogging.
This is a community, let’s support each other. I’m pretty sure if you looked at each individual blog and read their current post, there would be something nice you could say about it. Let’s focus on the positives, because then in turn, positivity is what you will get in return.
What are your thoughts on receiving criticism in blogging?