Announcement & Chatterbox: Co-Blogging vs Going Solo

October 3, 2014 by Jeann @ Happy Indulgence | Books, Chatterbox, Features

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You may have noticed that my co-blogger hasn’t been around for the past few days.

She messaged me a few days ago to say she won’t be continuing at Happy Indulgence anymore. She’s just started high school and in between managing two blogs and school work, it’s been hard to keep up for her, and I totally understand. I’ve really enjoyed working with Michelle in the past 2 months, and she’s been a passionate ball of energy, so I thank her for the time she’s given us.

These things don’t always work out, but I’m glad I tried co-blogging.

Happy Indulgence is my pride and joy, which I’ve put in hard work, effort, joy and tears, and injected my personality into over the past 2 years. Co-blogging means letting someone else into your inner sanctum, and it’s really hard to let go and just trust, and these things take time. Everyone approaches blogging differently, and if you’re particular about how you do things – which most bloggers are, it’s even harder. While co-blogging has it’s benefits, it isn’t for everyone. And I realise that now.

As Happy Indulgence has grown, it’s been hard keeping up with the increased amount of posts, comments, and reviews. But I’ve learnt a vital lesson – most of us go at it on our own, and everyone understands that you can’t do everything. It’s okay not to post so much, to keep up with comments, and to visit other blogs when you are busy. Even publishers understand that we can’t read every single review copy we are sent, or that they aren’t posted within the ideal time frame. As much as I love blogging, it’s a hobby on the side, and real life is more important. That’s something everyone can relate to. So if I need to let a few posts slide every now and then, or I can’t visit other blogs for a while, it’s okay. That’s the advice I give to others, so I should follow it myself.

So where to from here? I’ll take the time out to reflect, re-evaluate, and return Happy Indulgence to the fun book blog that you all know and love, with posts from yours truly.

I probably won’t be opening up the opportunity to co-blog again in the near future, but I know some of you have expressed your interest in helping out. I do still need help reviewing my backlog of physical ARCs. If you are Australian based, we know each other, and you would like to guest review for Happy Indulgence, please let me know by emailing me at happyindulgence[at]gmail[dot]com.

Thank you all for being welcoming and accepting of my co-blogger while she’s been here, and I can’t thank you enough for your continuing support and appreciation for Happy Indulgence, my dear readers and followers.

xoxo_jeann

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Jeann is an Aussie blogger, gamer, reader who loves to read, write, fangirl, geek out and eat food. You can find me glued to one of my many mobile devices 24/7, or fangirling over the latest YA book, TV show, movie or game. Chat with me on Twitter @happyindulgence

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87 responses to “Announcement & Chatterbox: Co-Blogging vs Going Solo

  1. I know I'm late, but I just wanted to say that it's a shame that Michelle had to leave! I really enjoyed reading her reviews and whatnot. However I understand. I had considered quitting blogging (or going on an indefinite hiatus) a couple of times but ultimately decided against it because I loved blogging too much.

    You've been doing well on your own for a long time and you'll keep doing that regardless. We love your blog whether you post every single day or once a week.

    🙂

  2. Thank you Gina, it is tough to keep a blog going on the side, let alone 2. Awww, thank you so much Gina, I really appreciate your kind words and support! It makes me feel better about it 🙂

  3. Yes co-blogging is definitely very hard to let people in. Thankfully my local friend Maggie is only really interested in reading and she's fine with writing the reviews and she is cool with going to visit back people that visit her. Kat seems to be a bit more into it with the reviewing and visiting blogs and being up for discussions. I think it's all about how much that other person wants to participate.

    Both of them seem to fine as contributors. When it comes to "co-blogging" i consider that a whole nother peice of pie. That means they want responsibility with scheduling, planning events – actively trying to bring in new visitors and they want to seek publishing contacts of their own and acquire books on their own. Neither of the ladies are really interested in that so it works out great. So I just plug in their post content as I see it appear in my pending review drafts. It works nice that way. Hence I don't "count" on them for content on a certain day – so I'm never disappointed. I always have to have a few posts a head that I have in the stash. We are now pretty set in that we're about a week ahead on scheduled drafts so I'm usually never left floundering to get a post up unless I just haven't gotten around to reviewing and fixing the formatting on it. Which hey that's my own laziness. LOL.

    I see a lot more people going to co-blogging cause its hard to cope with going it alone. Personally I like having a few of my friends that contribute from time to time because I honestly do need the few days off – and now I get too many books and I do want them to get read, if I'm not the one to read them I don't mind as long as they get some airtime because I'm still interested in reading them. Heck even Maggie's husband is stealing from her stack and reviewing a few here and there! lol.

    You do what you can I totally understand about how hard it is to blog solo. It has great perks which are hard to beat. You are QUEEN!
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    • That's a great way to approach it, there's definitely a difference between a reviewer, content contributor, guest blogger and co-blogger. It is worthwhile stating the difference for people who are interested in looking with it. Sounds like you ended up working up a great arrangement with your co-bloggers, as long as they can keep up with the content and visiting people back (I think that's the most important). Sounds like you definitely worked it well with the authorship and pending review drafts so you could schedule it in. We did ours definitely and would assign certain days for content, but I'm usually a week or two ahead with my drafts as well lol.

      LOL that's great how Maggie's hubby is helping out with reading every now and then, I do have a massive pile that I need help with because I certainly couldn't get through it alone myself. Thanks for your lovely comment Tabitha!

  4. So sorry to hear that it didn't work out with Michelle, but I totally understand. I do hope that you'll continue your blog Jeann, I've enjoyed it so much! Just remember that this is supposed to be a fun way of sharing your thoughts and books with your friends, so try not to stress about it. It's ok if you need to take a break or if you can't respond or post something right away. Your friends and followers totally understand, life comes first! I look forward to reading more of your reviews and posts, whenever you feel up to it! Hope you have a great week!!! 🙂
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    • Thank you so much Tricia, I really appreciate your support. I'll definitely be taking a step back to re-evaluate and think about everything, 2 years has been a long time but I definitely am enjoying it still. Just would enjoy it more if I pressured myself less and stuff.

  5. Oh no! So sad to hear you leave, Michelle! It was so good getting to read your posts and your reviews! Definitely understand where she is coming from, I know a lot of us have gone through that struggle, and it's definitely tough.

    Blogging should definitely be done at your own speed and when you have time. A lot of people don't realize that we just do this for fun and for us, which is sad, but the good thing is that we all understand 🙂 I will always follow you 🙂 no matter how much or how little you post! <3
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  6. Awww Amanda, that is such a caring, supportive comment. Thank you so much *hugs* You guys have given me the confidence to carry on with blogging, and realise it's not the end of the world if sometimes I can't.

  7. I'll support Happy Indulgence FOREVER AND EVER <3

    And you're definitely right about taking blogging at your own pace! We all know that life gets in the way of blogging and that sometimes it's hard to do ALL THE THINGS, but that's just it – we know! So we'll never judge or begrudge you not being 100% on top of things all the time, Jeann 😀
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  8. Thank you Emily, I can definitely understand as well and co-blogging has it's pros and cons as people said. Thank you so much Emily <3 for your kind words and support. It means a lot.

  9. Yeah, it's worth highlighting for those who are also thinking of having a co-blogger I think, you have to be ready to give up a bit of control and stuff too. Thank you so much for the supportive words Corinna.

  10. Thank you Charnell, it sounds like most of us are understanding and in the same boat, and that makes me feel a lot more relieved you know? It's worth thinking about whether the arrangement will suit you or not, even though it's great to get some help.

  11. Thank you Holly, it is difficult to find that perfect someone but also it depends on if you can give up that control as well. As you said, we don't need to be the best, we just need to do what we enjoy and that may not be reading and reviewing the latest ARCs. I totally agree with us all being unique being the best part of the community, if we all did the same thing it would be different. Thank you so much!

  12. Yeah, I know what it means, and I'm glad I tried it out and figured it out. Glad to hear you have fun blogging with your co-blogger, it's definitely not for everyone. Thank you so much Lisa for your support and kind words!

  13. It's so true, it took me almost a year to decide to do it but hey, you never know unless you try right? I totally agree with the reviewing, you need someone that fits with the style of your blog but that you will also get along with it. I like what you said about you being in it for the long haul too. Thanks Carmel.

  14. Aww! 🙁 I'm so sad to see Michelle leave, because she has been a great addition to the blog; but I completely understand where she's coming from. Just juggling one blog with school is hard enough, but two is definitely a stretch. She's definitely done a great job of managing it while she was here though!

    As much as I love blogging, it’s a hobby on the side, and real life is more important.

    I completely agree Jeann. Blogging is supposed to be something fun, on the side, and if it ever gets stressful or tedious, that's a sign that you should take a break. I hope you're able to transition back to blogging solo smoothly, and that you keep the fun in blogging.

    Thanks for sharing, and, as always, FABULOUS post! <3
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    • Thank you so much Zoe, I really did enjoy having her here and glad everyone enjoyed her posts. Blogging can sometimes get stressful especially because it's such a long term thing (of course it depends on the individual blogger) but yeah, I just need to remember what is important. Thank you so much for your kind words, as always.

  15. POOOOP. :((( I totally get her though. I just started freshman year and continuing ONE blog is tough. Eckkk.

    Also heh. If I lived in australia, I'd totally help out! 😀 I mean I haven't been blogging as much as I'd like to for my own blog, but in the past two years I've accumulated about 80 posts that I have scheduled ahead of time >_>
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    • Awww that is so lovely of you Nikki. Yeah life does get ahead of us sometimes! You've been amazing scheduling all of your posts ahead, I usually do mine for the next 2 weeks but I still go in and move stuff around hehe.

  16. Sorry to hear that Jeann, but I understand. Life is so hectic sometimes and even though a blog can feel like a job (a fun but time-consuming job) it is a hobby and we can't do everything. Your blog was great before you co-blogged and I am sure it will continue to be great. Don't stress over it, you have loyal followers who will continue to follow you even if you don't post as much.
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  17. That's such a shame Jeann 🙂 I definitely agree with you about blogging, it's a side project for me as well and it definitely doesn't trump real life. If that means not posting for a while or reducing my posts, then so be it! It's about balancing everything, and if I have to pull back then I do. I hope the guest posting works out better for you!
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  18. It's a shame she had to leave but I understand why you aren't looking for another co-blogger. I struggle to find the time and put far too much pressure on myself. I forget that others will understand if I don't post every day or even every other day. I have toyed with the idea of co-blogging but I don't know if it's for me. My blog is so personal to me that I think I would feel strange handing over the reigns to someone else from time to time. I think I am far too particular about things to try co-blogging. I use the blog to post my reviews and opinions on a book, it would seem weird to me to then have someone else's.

  19. Aw, sorry to see Michelle go! But yeah, it definitely happens. I started out with a friend from real life who eventually left then tried two others throughout the two years I've been blogging and it just didn't work. Bec has stuck around though, thank gosh! I don't deserve her xD Whatever you end up doing, your blog is still just going to keep getting more awesome anyway 😉

    • Ah, as the blog owner you are really in it for the long run and it does take a while to find the perfect one doesn't it? Bec and you make such a good team, I'm glad 😀

  20. Aw, I'm sorry co-blogging didn't work out for you! I honestly don't think I'd be able to give up half of the control to another blogger and it's hard to find that perfect person who complements you and who can bring in strengths that you don't have. And I think we've all been where you're at, wanting to find a good balance with blogging and life. It took me awhile to stop putting so much pressure on myself to post constantly, read those popular ARCs that everyone is, and come up with bigger and better ideas so my posts aren't boring and just filled with reviews. But we're all unique and that's what I love about this community! I think taking a break to reevaluate is good (I've had to do that myself, and it really puts things back into perspective), and I sincerely hope you find the fun in blogging again! 🙂
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  21. I definitely understand. Sometimes life is so hectic and busy there's just not a single free second to blog. Sorry to see Michelle go. And I know what you mean about co-blogging. It took me a very long time to decide. In the end I'm happy to have my SIL with me, though I honestly wasn't sure I could do it because I'm so protective and particular. In the end, it's just for fun, and we definitely have fun blogging together. It's not for everyone. And we will all still be here reading your posts even if you can't post as often. We will all still love Happy Indulgence!!
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  22. It's sad Michelle had to leave, but I'm sure that you will still, as usual, do a fantastic job as running this blog Jeann. Just remember that blogging is for YOU and should be something enjoyable. Since going solo myself I've realised that it can be hard keeping content up every day, but at the end of the day it is a hobby and you should just do what feels right and what you love. All the very best for the future moving forward Jeann, I'm sure Happy Indulgence is going to continue to be amazing 🙂
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    • Awww, thank you so much for your kind words and your confidence. Your comment definitely serves as a great reminder of why I started a blog, not so I could stress but because I enjoyed sharing my thoughts. Definitely we all need a reminder and a wake up call every now and then. Thank you so much sweety xoxo

  23. Blogging is a big investment of time and I can see why a co-blogger wouldn't be as committed to that investment. Still, it's probably really disappointing having to take on that big work load again. My blog isn't as active as I would like it to be, but that doesn't scare me as much as it used to. I blog more at a walking/jogging speed now haha. I don't know how you keep up with the running pace, but if you need to slow down, I'm sure everyone would be very understanding! If I was Australian I would offer to help out, but unfortunately my accent isn't that cool 🙂
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    • Absolutely Stephanie, as you've said, I just need to reduce my workload and blog at a slower pace, which is preferable anyways. Hehe I'm glad you like my accent! Thank you for your kind words, lovely.

  24. I hope everything works out in the end Jeann! Just letting you know that everyone here still supports you and loves you! And having a blog back to yourself is awesome!
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  25. Aww, I'm sad to hear Michelle is gone! I totally know what you mean about doing things at your own paced and people will totally understand that one person can't do everything!

    The last few years hasn't been too busy for me so I could really focus on the blog, but now that I started grad school, I feel like I'm neglected blogging/reading other blogs etc ): That is life I guess.

    Taking a break is good! I know when you're back, it'll bigger and better than ever!
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  26. This is such a great post Jeann! I totally know where you are coming from and for me, it's been a relief to have other people help me with my blog because I'm sooooooooo all over the place. But I get it…our blogs are our pride and joy. *wink* I've been barely writing reviews and that probably has something to do with Outlander! *shrugs* And I have to admit…I feel guilty when I don't visit all the blog that I follow but with school, work and trying to have some sort of social life, it gets overwhelming. Anyway, glad to know that I'm not alone my friend! ♥
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    • Thanks Cristina, It's so true, the guilt of not keeping on top of things is a big part that is steering me off blogging. But I just need to tell myself that it's okay, especially with a busy work/social life. It totally makes me feel better that others relate as well <3

    • Keeping it as a hobby is a great thing to say, sometimes it can become a job or a chore which isn't why we started it out to be. Hopefully I can keep the ARC pile under control. Thank you Emma.

  27. Ahh I can't imagine giving up or sharing control over the blog because of those things you mentioned. I introduced a contributor a few months ago and even that was tough, but in the long-run, a good move for the blog. I read up on WordPress authorship and I think I'd freak out knowing someone had the ability to delete posts moreso than publish them. And even though everything's backed up via HostGator, it's such a pain to manually restore everything. Good for you in letting go and hopefully you'll continue to be successful and enjoy new experiences throughout your blogging journey.
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  28. Like everything else, co-bloggers have their pros and cons. It took me years to open up to the idea to enlist help (giving up partial control of your baby is hard!), and finding decent reviewers is even more difficult. I try to look at them as a nice addition, but not essential, plus they come & go while as I'm in it for the long haul. Good luck on your new/old solo venture!
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  29. I am sorry to hear this didn't work out for you. Although I do agree with that it's hard to share your blog with someone else as everyone has it's own way of doing things. And indeed it's okay if you don't have posts for a few days, I think for the blogger themselves it's the hardest. Your visitors probably wouldn't mind too much as long as you're still around! Keep blogging fun and don't stress too much, I hope you can find reviewers to help you out with your review pile!
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  30. Sorry about that, Jean! I'm a super busy person right now and I'm posting less and visiting blogs and commenting less, but I feel like that's ok. It seems to me like having a co blogger would just create more work for you anyway. But I like the idea of guest reviewers, I'm sure you'll find lots of helpful readers in Australia!
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    • Thank you Tammy, I totally know what you mean because we can't always keep up with the blogging and posting. I get quite busy in real life as well, especially with work and other stuff.

  31. Sorry to see Michelle go but totally understand. I recently used guest posts while I dealt with my daughter's wedding and it was wonderful. I struggle with feeling like I need to post daily but in reality 3 or 4 times a week would probably be enough. We are a passionate bunch 🙂
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    • That's a really great idea Kimba, next time I will start off slowly with guest posts instead of taking the plunge. I totally agree, I think posting 3-4 times week is ideal both for your readers and the blogger 🙂

  32. Aww, sad to see you go Michelle, I've enjoyed reading your thoughts on books and hearing about yourself. But education does come first. Jeann, I know the feeling because I struggled with sharing my blog with someone as well. Thank god I found a reader in one of my friends (Alana), but it still felt like I was relinquishing my baby. At the end of the day, this is your baby as well and you can do whatever you want with it! Let me know if you need help with anything xx
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    • Thank you Joy, I totally feel what you mean and it's good you and Alana are friends 🙂 I totally know what you mean, we need the freedom to be able to do what we want with our blogs. Will do hun x

  33. I can totally understand that blogging sometimes is gonna suffer from how busy life gets, and I'm sorry to see Michelle go, but I'm sure you'll find the way to balance life with everything it has and blogging. I have been struggling a bit more with the balance as of late myself, but I hope I can get everything sorted soon!

    Take the time you need to figure everything out Jeann!
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  34. Aww Jeann, I'm sorry to here that, it can be hard to have so many responsibilities elsewhere and still blog, but please please please don't feel like you're not good enough. You're wonderful, your blog is beautiful, you have great content and shouldn't feel bogged down. Take time, blog a little less, do whatever you feel is right and we'll be here, we don't stop following just because we can't find you, we just celebrate more when you come back 😉 Do what feels right!
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  35. Oh gosh, that's sad and kind of really unexpected. I totally did a double take. I completely understand being disappointed….*hugs* I do hope you don't stop blogging, Jeann, and I do hope it stays FUN for you. It sucks when things just aren't fun at all. YOU ARE FABULOUS, JEANN. JUST REMEMBER THAT.
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  36. Awww, shame Michelle had to leave, but I can understand that the start of high school is a stressful and busy time! Completely understand. I blog solo as well (with occasional guest appearances from my sister) and I wouldn't want to give that up – at the same time I can see how co-blogging would have its benefits. I agree that we all need to have breaks sometimes, and that's always going to be okay <3 WE ALL LOVE YOU JEANN!!!!
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