Chatterbox: Spread Love, Not War

January 23, 2015 by Jeann @ Happy Indulgence | Chatterbox, Features

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To anyone feeling the negativity in the blogging community today – you’re not alone. I’ve debated on whether to share this post or not, but the goal of Happy Indulgence is to spread love and support in the blogging community. I want to share with everyone my love and my passion for blogging, and I think it’s a wonderful thing to be a part of. I want to banish all of the negativity in the blogosophere today and hopefully this post will help others out there who are feeling the same.

Many bloggers nowadays seem to have moved on, quit blogging or disappeared altogether. I’ll never forget the parting words of one of the bloggers whom I tweeted: “I just feel better when I’m not blogging“. I finally realise the impact of these words, after witnessing endless drama and feeling pressured from blogging.

As bloggers, what we do is very public and we are subject to criticism from everyone: authors, publishers, readers, and other bloggers. Whether it’s indie authors vs bloggers, authors vs bloggers, publishers vs other publishers, there always seems to be some sort of drama happening. This is what the very nature of social media about – allowing everyone to voice their own opinions almost instantaneously. When all you see are words on a screen, it’s easy to forget there are people behind these words, people who can take those words the wrong way and get hurt from what is said. Simple comments can be misconstrued, which people can get fired up from without hearing both sides of the story. Social media can spark a fire, and I’ve learnt to stay out of it.

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Not only is there drama in the wider reading community, but there is also endless drama within the blogging community. It’s easy to feel jealous, bitter or inadequate when you see bloggers receive ARCs, become BFFs with authors or publishers, or who seem to have the most followers. Maybe it’s ‘tall poppy’ syndrome, but most of us showcase our ARCs because we’re truly excited about what books we’ve received. It’s not to make anyone jealous or feel bad, but I know this is why many don’t do haul posts anymore.

That in itself, is a real shame. Why should we censor ourselves and contain our excitement for books, when books are what we blog about? There are always going to be a select few who ruin it for everyone else – those who constantly flaunt what they have with no regard for others. We can’t control what others share, but we can control who we follow, so I’m unfollowing anyone who makes me feel bad or inadequate – and I suggest you do too.

I see so many people getting upset, hurt, or wondering why they are just not good enough – it’s just not true! A blog is your personal space. It is an extension of your personality. You are never not good enough, just because other people are getting ARC’s or getting more comments or views. While there are always going to be people who are more successful than you, who are proud of what they do, or even those who show off and brag – this presents an opportunity for you to make a difference. Through their behaviour and their blogs, I found my blogger idols. I found who to emulate and who to avoid.

How do we solve all the negativity in the blogosphere today? By not adding fuel to the fire and realising what is important. There is more to blogging than getting ARCs, comments, followers and views. Do you love sharing an opinion on series? Did you start blogging to make friends in the community? Or do you just enjoy having your personal space where you can write whatever you want? Remember why you started blogging to begin with. That is the key to your enjoyment and longevity.

To those feeling down on the drama – there are some of us who choose to spread love and support to anyone who reaches out. We have to remember that as bloggers, we owe it to each other to treat each others – bloggers, authors, publishers, readers, with respect and the way we want to be treated. To not bitch, gossip, goad, or brag, treating others in a way that makes them feel hurt, inadequate or incomplete.

Blogging is hard enough without the controversy behind it. We are all here for the love of reading. We add enough pressure on ourselves to do better, to read more, to review more, to comment and socialise more. The last thing we need is facing criticism and hurt from all sides. I can see why bloggers have quit after all these things have been said and done, because this means they have less drama to deal with. I can see why people are afraid to join it and interact with others.

I love blogging, and I want to keep on loving it. And in order for me to keep on loving it, I want to be part of a community that is supportive, that celebrates each others successes, that helps lift each other up when they are down. No more bitching, no more blogger jealousy, no more bullying, showing off and most importantly – no more drama. Help others out, remember your live audience and don’t respond to people who make you feel upset. Because that is what makes us such a supportive and positive community – support and encouragement for each other’s passion.

I know why I’m here. I have a passion for reading and blogging, and I’m not going to let anyone make me quit doing something that I love. I have a voice and I want to share it, by always spreading positive words, support and encouragement.

Spread love not war, because that is the key to healthy, ongoing and successful blogging community.

xoxo_jeann

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Jeann is an Aussie YA blogger and mum who loves to read and recommend books! You can usually find me fangirling about books on my various social media channels including Twitter @happyindulgence, Instagram and Youtube.

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82 responses to “Chatterbox: Spread Love, Not War

  1. Aww Jeann, what a beautiful post. Social media can be a blessing and hell all at once. I find that when drama occurs, my ears do perk up because I want to be in the know but I'm also not the type of person that like to jump in a put in my two cents all that often. When with my friends from high school, we had and continue to have a very good relationship because we just don't bother with the drama. We learn to suck it up and move on, and I think a lot of people should ask themselves "is it worth it?" before jumping in to the midst of drama as well.

    I often take time off social media, especially Twitter when I just don't feel like being on there. There's no rule saying to be a good blogger you must be active all the time. And the jealousy thing? It's normal, absolutely normal. But no one should go into blogging just so they can be famous in the blogging community either. I've learnt my lesson about requesting too many books, and it's always the first advice I give others that are starting out.

    Also the ARC photo thing? It's called good PR. Publishers spend money sending books to bloggers because they want a good return on investment with their limited budget. And bloggers with a big audience means good publicity for a small budget.

    I think you're absolutely right in saying that people need to be aware that the book community is about spreading the love of books. Any other motivation is good but only if you don't go overboard with it. I for one appreciate all my readers and friends, and I think more people definitely need to spread love and not war as well. <3 <3

  2. Jackie

    This is an excellent post! I've been around the book blogosphere for about 4 years now, so I've seen my fair share of drama. With each even that passes, it doesn't get any easier to swallow. I turn to the book blogosphere to escape the negativity of my own life, so appreciate this post that promotes and calls for positivity.

  3. I have felt almost everything you've written. Excellent post, by the way! I recently talked with a fellow blogger about re-evaluating my blogging for 2015 after reflecting on 2014. I decided that the best thing for me (mentally and emotionally) with regard to my blogging is to get back to the basics. Revisit why I began blogging and what I enjoyed about it back in the day. I've changed some things, lost a few followers along the way in doing so, unfollowed a few who made me cringe every time I saw a post from them, and I feel 100% better about my blogging again. I've also discovered a few great blogs I hadn't known before and am so thankful for that. I no longer feel overwhelmed nor stifled because my voice is back, which is why I began blogging in the first place. I post what I want and feel the right audience will stick around for the right reasons. I just found your post a week later thanks to another blogger linking to it, and I'm glad that I did. Your voice in this post validated my thoughts, feelings, and emotions for blogging. Thank you for posting this.
    My recent post Top TBR Picks of the Week – Jan 29, 2015

  4. I've always noticed the competition amongst the blogging community but I've never bothered to try and be a part of it. I try to not get involved mainly because I don't understand why bloggers need to fight. What is there to fight over? Also, how has anyone got the time to bitch about anyone these days. It's complicated enough having a work, school, social and blogging life. We judge the books, no need to judge each other.

    This was a good meaningful and heartfelt discussion. I'm glad it's been brought up and addressed and I hope there's no more of this petty jealousy.
    My recent post {Review} The Unbecoming of Mara Dyer

  5. I actually just recently decided to stop writing haul posts because I didn't feel like I was saying much in them and purposefully skip reading others haul posts to avoid ARC envy at all costs. I don't like that that is something I have to do personally because I can't seem to not feel bad, but you gotta be honest with yourself I guess! I also recently unfollowed someone I thought of as a friend on Instagram because she was posting so many pics of painfully wished for ARCs that I wasn't able to get and it just was getting to be too much for my emotions. Again, hate that I can't manage to not feel jealousy but I have to be honest in order to not get burnt out.

    I have to be honest that I have seen so many of these posts and am not really sure what is sparking them all of a sudden. I guess I've been missing drama? Not a bad thing, but I'm curious what general things have been happening that made everyone suddenly worried about the atmosphere of the community?

    I added myself to the link up since I definitely want to refocus on sharing happiness and a love of books. I didn't post a specific link yet since I haven't decided what to write about, but I will!
    My recent post Best Audiobooks of 2014 Giveaway Hop (US/Can)

  6. Brilliant post, I see this all the time in the blogging community, Amazon, and Goodreads AND TWITTER. Everywhere it seems drama springs up and people just light the fire and we lose sight of what's really important. Loving and sharing books with other people.

    So I'm completely with you

  7. Sam

    I added my name to the linky, because this is something that we shouldn't even need to talk about. Being nice should just be natural, which is why the flurry of posts on this topic have saddened me.

    I personally know of a few controversies, like the Zoella one, and the Stacey Jay one, and the one about the author stalking a blogger a few months back. I personally never witness any of these things, I tend to hear about them from other bloggers. Maybe I just hang out with a anti-drama crowd, which is a good thought. Anyways, awesome post!
    My recent post Review: Love, Lucy by April Lindner

  8. I wasn't even aware that this drama was going on, but I couldn't have said it better myself! We shouldn't forget the one thing we all have in common: we love books and jealousy/hatred among book bloggers should not get in the way of that.
    My recent post Fanmix Friday: Fangirl

  9. rlsharpe

    I haven't heard much about drama and (thankfully) not involved in any. I do stick to mainly Australian blogs and all the blogs I follow are really nice 🙂 But I do know there is a lot of negative comments ( I can't stand to read Youtube comments because of what people say) People like to go on about freedom of speech, but just because you have free speech doesn't mean you can harass and put people down. What happened to common decency? I'm with you. Why all the negative? Blogging is meant to be fun. I see bloggers as real people and wouldn't want to hurt anyone, obviously other's don't. Good for you for posting this Jeann. I wish people would just go by the old adage 'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all' and wish people would stay out of things that don't concern them instead of stirring up trouble for the fun of it.
    My recent post Review: Egg and Spoon By Gregory Maguire.

  10. I usually try to stay away from all the drama and stay positive on my blog. I also started accepting less deadline book this year and it really helped getting the fun back in reading as well, although I am still accepting review copies. I also think it's very important to treat everyone I meet online with respect. I try to keep looking at the bright side like you mentioned and stay away from the drama. Great post
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  11. I have been fortunate enough to avoid the drama, and blogged about this awhile ago. You are so right, that your blog is your personal space and it should be a happy place. I love seeing folks squeal when they get an ARC or book sent to them. I still squeal with excitement and I am 40- *cough* I hate to see anyone leave blogging because they feel the environment isn't friendly or safe. Blog for your love of books, avoid the drama and surround yourself with awesome bloggers who feel the same.
    My recent post Caffeinated Confession -Open Ended Novels

    • I do remember your post Kimba, it all affects us at some point. I don't want the environment to be that way either! And yes, it's about the passion than anything else.

  12. What a lovely positive movement you've got going here! I think it's easy till lose sight of the good reasons for blogging when you see the drama rear it's ugly head our when moments of jealousy or inadequacy overtake you. I think those feelings everyone once can't help but feel from time to time. When they hit me I just remind myself that if I'm that upset about a book I didn't get approved for that just means I better buy it so I can support the author and still read it and review it anyway because ultimately that's my goal is to find and squee over books I'll hopefully love. This isn't a popularity contest but I know it seems like it gets treated that way sometimes. Luckily I try to stay away from the drama as well and really only follow people that make me feel good about the community just like you said. 🙂
    My recent post How do you interact with the Blogging community? My Tips & Tricks

    • Thanks Tabitha, it really is easy to lose sight of what blogging is about with so many cooks in the kitchen, but YES like you said, we're lucky to be at a certain stage in our lives where we can buy a book and it's no skin off our back. Plus we do get to support the author as well.
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  13. This is such a great post, Jeann! I must be completely out of the loop, because I haven't seen any drama at all lately. And that's really OK with me 🙂
    It's nice to see that you're taking the high love and want to spread the blogger love rather than drama. I think that's one of the things I love the most in the community, the way we are able to pick ourselves up, pat each other's backs and continue reading and reviewing with passion!
    Have a great weekend!!
    My recent post Review: NightDrake – Lara Adrian

    • Thanks Lexxie, I feel like there was so much drama towards the end of last year and early this year that I'm tired of it lol!

  14. literateture

    I think this is a wonderful idea, Jeane!!! This is so nice of you <3 LOL You can never erase drama from the blogosphere even with all the love in the world. A lot of people like to have entertainment even my own blogger friend in PH keep on back tabbing a lot of our fellow bloggers, I see their comments and just not say anything. I was even blocked by a blogger I don't know…I don't even know whyyyy she blocked me. Then I realised it was because of whom I associate myself with…how sad.
    My recent post 21 books to Read Before The Big Screen

    • Thank you so much Chyna! Yeah, it's hard to realise that the internet is about real people and sometimes it can be hurtful lol.

  15. Charlene @ Bookish Whimsy

    Love this post! I definitely agree and find it so saddening that bookish people, who are awesome, can foster such negativity sometimes. I try very much to ignore it, but I think this post is so helpful – to encourage other people to ignore it as well, and just not engage with any drama. Thank you for this timely post Jeann!
    My recent post Review: Persuasion

  16. This is an amazing post, Jeann. I started blogging about eight months ago (wow, was it really that long ago?) just for fun. At times, blogging can get stressful and drama in the blogosphere makes it even more stressful. I try to stay out of drama and not post about controversial topics, but even so, it can still get to me. I think the best thing to do is to remember that I started blogging for fun, and it should stay that way. Blogging is not a job or a competition. It is just a hobby.
    My recent post Read.Blog.Discuss: Reading as a Reviewer vs. as a Reader

    • Thanks Ana, it can definitely get to you and I've been wary about posting any topics like that either, especially with a controversial opinion. Definitely not a job or a competition!

  17. Braine-Talk Supe

    I'd join but I'm feeling lazy! LOL

    I agree with everything you said and thank you for being positive. I must admit, I used to feel jealous and competitive with other bloggers in the past and thank the book gods I managed to get over that and adjust my attitude. It did help me a LOT and now my focus is enjoying reading like I used to.
    My recent post Liked It: Atlanta Burns by Chuck Wendig

  18. I love this post. I don't think others should get jealous when someone gets an ARC, it takes a lot of work to get Arcs sometimes! I think it should be an incentive to work harder. I also saw that people on booktube stopped receiving gifts from their followers because people were getting so jealous. I just think all this is crazy, since many bloggers/booktubers give the arcs/books to other people in giveaways half the time anyway!
    My recent post Love Least Expected Tour, *GIVEAWAY*, and Review

  19. I must have been under a rock when this drama happened, but, regardless of the scenario, I completely agree with this post Jeann. Like you said, we don't just blog to get ARCs, comments, views, etc. Blogging is our way of sharing our thoughts on what we love – books – and gaining friends along the way. With competition and jealousy in the way, how do we expect this experience to be a positive one?

    Thank you for this inspiring and beautifully written post Jeann!

    • There was SO much drama as of late that it's definitely getting tiring, but it's a good thing Zoe! I totally agree, there's so much more to life and I'm just so glad the bloggers I interact with are all awesomely supportive, including yourself Zoe!

    • Absolutely, and it's great that people are remembering why they started blogging. I think it's awesome 🙂 as long as people treat each other nicely (especially on Twitter lol)

  20. Great post, Jeann! I totally agree with you! I definitely try to stay out of the drama (though really I'm usually pretty oblivious to it all unless it's super huge…which I guess it a good thing because than that means I'm not worrying about it!).
    It's really too bad that people feel the need to stop blogging because the dramas gotten so much out of hand.

    Thanks for the reminder that blogging isn't about being popular, it's about sharing what we love and getting overly excited and feeling the need to tell everyone about it (or ranting about the book that drove us insane – all in all, it's about the sharing)!
    My recent post Really Really Short Reviews: Magic Burns by Ilona Andrews

    • Thanks Cyn, it's a good thing staying out of the loop, less things to dress about. It is definitely about sharing your love and your passion!

  21. Awesome post Jeann! (And I like how Kelly has linked up and has decided to be nice hahaha!) But yeah, I feel the same way, but luckily I haven't really encountered anything that made me want to quit, but I can definitely see how some bloggers think this way. So yes, SPREAD LOVE! 🙂
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  22. inlibrisveritas

    Great post Jeann! We need to stick together and work on being happy with our own spaces. Blogging can get downright stressful without all of the extra drama, and I've been so close to quitting several times in my 4 years and each time I made myself take a step back and remember why I started to begin with.
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  23. Marianne @ Boricuan Bookworms

    Maybe I'm out of the loop (or pursposely avoiding any sort of online drama) because I saw another blogger talk about drama like a day ago. I dislike the fact that this happens; makes me realise how scary the internet is sometimes.

    I'm just glad that there are so many awesome bloggers (including you! :)) out there that make this worth it in a way.
    My recent post Review: Sisters Red by Jackson Pearce + Fashion by the Book!

    • It's a good thing when you choose to avoid the online drama, I do think most of it happens on Twitter or other blogs. Thank you Marianne!

  24. LilysBookBlog

    This is the third post about this I've read in he last few weeks. I hate how so many great and influential bloggers are quitting because of all this drama and author and blogger divide. It's incredibly sad since I love blogging and I don't want to stop. I also don't want blogging to become something I one day don't like. Great review Jeann.

  25. Yes Jeann, effing YES! I'm deliberating avoiding social media for that same reason, the drama. I like a whinge as much as the next person, but not at the expense of others. What happened to venting your frustrations behind closed doors? This sub tweeting crap pisses me off to no end. Sadly, social media gives everyone (not only bloggers), the avenue to publicly vent without retribution really. I wouldn't go up to a relative stranger in the street and abuse them, so I wouldn't do it online either. But unfortunately not everyone abides to those social standards.

    I'm convinced that some like trouble for the sake of having something to do, to be honest. There's a huge difference between being passionate and having an aggressive opinion. I blog solely for myself first, but try to blog with readers in mind as well. I don't aim to be a huge blog, but to be happy with what I put out there. I love seeing smaller and newer bloggers with access to ARC's, we're lucky being older and in a financial position where we can afford to buy books, where struggling teens and uni students aren't. I rarely request books now so that EVERYONE has the opportunity to experience receiving a review copy. The few extra weeks of waiting for a book to be released won't kill me, but not requesting gives another blogger the opportunity to perhaps read a book that they couldn't afford to buy themselves and I'm all for that. Because that's what it's all about… The books!

    Fantastic post Jeann, let's all get our shit together and get back to basics. Being courteous, kind and for effs sake, not attacking eachother.
    My recent post Trust Me, I'm Lying by Mary Elizabeth Summer

    • Sub tweeting is the worst. It just makes me sad when I see it all the time, and you know, sometimes Twitter can get tiring because too many cooks you know? So much noise. I totally agree with the whole aggressive opinion thing, some people are just negatively geared you know? I just love what you say about leaving the ARC requesting for others and YES we can go and buy the books ourselves. (Although I'm really trying not to, I have a space problem here). Thank you for all your support with this and everything Kelly <3

  26. Excellent post, Jeann. I think sometimes it's easy to let ourselves get swayed away by all the excitement that blogging brings us. A lot of people these days seem to be blogging for the wrong reasons. There have been talks about us being nothing but marketing tools and how we should be paid and it's all very headache inducing. At the end of the day, blogging is a HOBBY. Do it for fun. When it starts to make you feel negative (like my post about ARC Obsession), it's time to take a step back and just really think about yourself and why you're doing what you're doing.

    And the drama! Ugh! There's a new one everyday! I stay away from it but I still talk with friends about it. My friend and I were just talking about how this is no longer the same community it was when we started 3 years ago. We were wondering why we still blogged even though there's all this negativity!!

    Great post, Jeann!
    My recent post Review : One of the Guys by Lisa Aldin

    • Thank you Nick, it definitely is headache inducing but at the end of the day, we don't need to react to the drama that people try and create. There IS a new one everyday lol!

  27. AMAZING POST, JEANN! I have noticed bloggers disappearing these days and I just wonder what is going on! I know that there is always some drama going on somewhere, but generally I stay out. I'm not here to fight, but to spread love. Book love in the first place. This community became very important to me during this time and I met many amazing people. That and I have read so many amazing books. That's all I need. Yes I will never get some amazing number of ARCs or be on every publisher's wishlist but so what. When I started blogging I didn't have that in mind and I never will. Great post 🙂 I will try to get my post done soon 🙂
    My recent post Breaking the Rules by Katie McGarry

    • Thanks Tanja, it's always sad to see them disappear but now I know why you know?/ It is definitely an important community and I love it. I'm glad to hear you've readjusted your thoughts on ARCs and everything.

  28. I'm a very relaxed blogger – and I don't even have a Twitter account, which ensures I stay away from the drama ;). Anyway, I get both sad and angry when other bloggers quit because of the pressure or the bullying or whatever. Dear blogger, don't let other people dictate on your life. Also – your life is not defined by the number of ARCs or followers you get…neither is your blog. Your blog is the love kid of your hard work and your passion. And no matter how many ARCs and followers you gain, it's amazing just because of that. You are unique. This is why you are awesome, no matter what!

    Thanks Jeann :).
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  29. rabbitearsblog

    Wow! Awesome post! It's a shame that there are some people out there who want to make many bloggers' times on the web a terrible experience just because they don't agree with the bloggers' opinions about certain books and they give them a hard time about it, instead of just having a civil discussion about the book. There needs to be more posts like this that would help encourage bloggers to keep blogging no matter what and to not let other people get them down like this. I am definitely joining up for this!

  30. I've been blogging since 2011. I've seen enough drama to last me a lifetime. I've also learned how to deal with my own jealousy and how to stay away from certain people on Twitter that regularly engage in any type of dramas. While positivity hasn't been my strong suit, I learned to stay away from social media when I'm in such a state. I believe that while blogging is an extension of my personality, it does not define me. IT IS NOT ME.

    Great post, Jeann. I'm with you. 🙂
    My recent post [484]: A Constellation of Vital Phenomena by Anthony Marra

    • Man, I could only imagine the amount of drama that would be since then! I think I'm a year after you. I totally agree, sometimes we all get a bit moody and can let it affect us, and the best thing is not to react. And yes, it is definitely not you! You are so much more than your blog. Thanks Joy 🙂

  31. booksbonesbuffy

    Jeann, you are completely right! I hate drama, and even though I have no idea what happened, I can imagine, because I've seen lots of stupid drama over the years. I think for the most part bloggers are wonderful people and we all get along in our special "community." I try to ignore the stupid stuff and do my own thing. Thanks for writing such a lovely post!!! XOXO
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  32. Beautiful post, Jeann. Seriously. You're going back to basics and I love that. I see the drama blow up on social media and I'm like you, I stay out of it, take a step back. Blogging is so personal for me. It's that more than anything. I've shared a bunch of things through my blog and it's more than just reviewing books that I have thoughts about. It's a part of ourselves, we shouldn't have to censor it, feel a need to be politically correct all the time (that being said, staying respectful is another matter) etc etc (basically you said it all, and made my thoughts all coherent). You're an amazing figure in this community. It aches at me when drama happens. It's hard but I understand. We're a bunch of people united by common loves, but we've also got to remember that we share different opinions as well. And sometimes the clash, and wow, do they clash. And that's the sad bit, when they clash AND there is fiery retaliation. That sucks, on line AND in real life. I have no idea where I'm going with this. I guess what I really wanted to say is YOUR LETTER WAS AMAZING. And we all need to be reminded of it. Keep rocking, Jeann! <3 x
    My recent post Red Queen #1: Red Queen by Victoria Aveyard

    • Thank you so much Jess, your comment means so much to me! I hope to effect some sort of positive change in the community and it's great to hear so many people feel the same way. I do think we all need to be respectful of each other – even though we have different opinions!

  33. It is distressing to hear about what happens in the community, and I confess, I feel slightly on the outskirts of it all, I don't feel like I'm the centre of the community, but neither do I not feel in it, and it's that makes me sort of stay out of it, do what I do, continue to blog and talk and show why I do it. I can't imagine how horrible it is for people to consider not blogging, when it all gets too much, thankfully, I'm not there, I'm not a huge arc envier, (although we all get a little jealous, right) and I'm not a stirrer, I just, do what I do, as you said, spread love and remind people why we do it. It's sad that these posts have to be sad, to remind, but it's lovely that they are, so thank you Jeann 🙂
    My recent post Bookish Musings – Amanda's Winter Book Haul/Goodies

  34. Omg this is an amazing post and I need to get one up about this as well! Hopefully I can write one for early next month. To be honest, even though I know about all the drama, I just choose to stay out of it. As for things like bloggers being treated badly, screw them. I definitely know what you mean about ARC jealousy and everything. I've had thoughts sometimes where I think "maybe I shouldn't share this in case someone thinks I'm showing it off" but then I remember that I'm just genuinely excited about it. It's always important to remember why you blog and to think about all the amazing people that you can connect with. 😀
    My recent post Show and Tell: Why I Need New Bookshelves

    • It's all good Laura, the post isn't mandatory but just to give everyone an opportunity to show their support. IT's good staying out of the drama because we don't need more to stress us out!

  35. Aw I love this post Jeann! It's very inspiring! I almost dropped out of blogging last July because some author confronted me once for reading and reviewing her book that was apparently NA (which I had NO IDEA about), and I felt really bad because of that confrontation. Thanks for writing this post 🙂 Life can get in the way too, but I still hope to continue blogging <3
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  36. Gosh, has there been even MORE drama recently? I haven't been on Twitter too much recently, and I think that's why I haven't really noticed- all the drama seems to start on Twitter…

    Anyway, great post Jeann! It really does highlight how the blogosphere is supposed to be a welcoming community rather than a place to spawn jealousy and hate.
    My recent post Review: The Darkest Part of the Forest by Holly Black

    • SO MUCH DRAMA NARA. It's kind of good that you stay out of it too! Twitter does spark a lot of drama for some reason 😛

  37. Love this post Jeann. I've been feeling like this a lot lately and I adore blogging so much that it's a horrible way to feel towards something you love. This community is so amazing overall that it can be such a shock and overwhelming when something kicks off and brews bad feeling but you're totally right. It's much better to keep focused on the positive and ignore the naysayers.

  38. I always try to stay out of the drama, but if you are on social media like Twitter you always catch something of it. It makes me sad that people who have so much in common can be so nasty to each other – not to forget the author/blogger drama's we've had. It's also crazy that people have a feeling they need to stop posting certain content. I love to see book hauls and I never thought about them as 'bragging' more as 'sharing.'

    I always try my hardest to bring some love around the blogosphere and I don't want to lose any more bloggers. We should be one big, happy family 🙂

    • I know, it's sad to always see everyone fighting each other, and it's just not cool! I love book hauls and I do think everyone should feel comfortable in sharing it. Totally agreed Mel and thanks for the support!

  39. I LOVE THIS POST SO MUCH, JEANN. GOOD ON YOU AND YAY YAY!!! I really am quite tired of some of the fiascos going down. At first I didn't notice them…but I do see quite a lot more. Just the other day I saw a conversation on twitter where an author was sort of attacking a book blogger and…ugh. It just. No. Why does this even need to happen???
    I totally get why people don't do hauls, but the main reason I do them is for advertisement. I feel like I owe publishers SO MUCH for giving me an ARC or a review-copy that I just really want to blog about it as much as possible. I want to get the title out there so later, when I go to blog about it, people go "ohhh, I remember she mentioned that book earlier".
    Erk. Anyway. This is fabulous post and I highly agree. It makes me sad when people have to stop blogging, but I think it's better to stop than to do something that ruins you. 🙁
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    • THANK YOU CAIT! I am definitely tired of the constant drama and bitching and other negative feelings, it's just not cool. I love what you said about advertising that for publishers too, and I totally agree! I'll continue to doing that because YES we love our books and we want to announce it to the world!

  40. I could not agree more with this post, Jeann! I love blogging, but I do find it rather tiring sometimes with everything that you've just talked about and sometimes it weighs me down, which is why I try and stay away from social media where the bitterness especially seems to lie . However, it's bloggers like you, that are always cheery and happy and just so POSITIVE when everyone really needs it which makes the book blogospere such a happy place! Your blog definitely lives up to it's name in it's 'happy' term and I'm just glad that I follow your blog and have got to know you! 🙂 Chatting to you is such a fabulous experience and you're just basically a really amazing person (I think more people should tell you that!)! 🙂 Definitely signing up! 😀

  41. loonytuney

    Clearly the drama this time went riiiight over my head (thank goodness). But for the most part, I've had an amazing time with the book blogger community – especially us Aussies. It's always good to have a reminder of why we're here *HUGS*
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    • It wasn't in response to any particular drama, just all of it compounded over the last few months lol. I love our Aussie bloggers *Hugs back*

  42. Eugenia

    I completely agree Jeann! There has been a lot of drama in the global blogosphere lately (luckily not so much in Aus), and it's sad to hear that people are stopping blogging because of all the issues that have arisen with jealousy and the blogger/author divide (which shouldn't exist in the first place because we should be WORKING TOGETHER!). Let's unite again, start fresh and not forget that we are here to share our passion for reading, which is what we all have in common. Fantastic discussion 🙂
    My recent post Review: Amy and Roger's Epic Detour by Morgan Matson

    • Oh I know, it's easy to get tired or overwhelmed because of it but I'm so glad a lot of people seem to agree! Let's definitely share our positivity with each other 🙂

  43. Bec

    This is the second post I've seen about drama and ignoring it/wishing it didn't exist today. I wasn't aware there was even more drama again, but I can't say I'm surprised. It seems somethings happening every second week now 🙁

    You know better than anyone how close Alise and I came to quitting. And I just want to thank you, Jeann, because that incident was the one where I started talking to you more (I think?) and you showed me the bright side of the blogging community. You're always so happy and supportive and it is through you I have found the best side of the community, where negativity rarely rears its head. You helped us keep going and we can't thank you enough.

    I'm definitely going to sign up. Book blogging should be about excitement and fangirling over our favourite groups and forming lasting friendships with people from all over the world. It's supporting the new bloggers and giving them a space to share their thoughts and opinions without fear. Supporting our favourite authors as they put effort into their novels. Supporting the publishes who make it possible for us to read the books.

    Thank you again, Jeann.
    My recent post Review: Heart of the Dragon’s Realm by Karalynn Lee

    • Awww Bec, I'm glad we got closer after those incidents because you're one of the first I turn to about this stuff! So glad you have put your name down. It's easy to get down on all the negativity about, but clearly from all the comments from here there are a LOT of people who are positive – and we need to see that and encourage everyone.

      I AM SO GLAD you guys have a renewed sense of blogging now 🙂 you can see it as well too. RiW is awesome with you two lovely ladies and I hope you have many more blogging years to come!
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