To anyone feeling the negativity in the blogging community today – you’re not alone. I’ve debated on whether to share this post or not, but the goal of Happy Indulgence is to spread love and support in the blogging community. I want to share with everyone my love and my passion for blogging, and I think it’s a wonderful thing to be a part of. I want to banish all of the negativity in the blogosophere today and hopefully this post will help others out there who are feeling the same.
Many bloggers nowadays seem to have moved on, quit blogging or disappeared altogether. I’ll never forget the parting words of one of the bloggers whom I tweeted: “I just feel better when I’m not blogging“. I finally realise the impact of these words, after witnessing endless drama and feeling pressured from blogging.
As bloggers, what we do is very public and we are subject to criticism from everyone: authors, publishers, readers, and other bloggers. Whether it’s indie authors vs bloggers, authors vs bloggers, publishers vs other publishers, there always seems to be some sort of drama happening. This is what the very nature of social media about – allowing everyone to voice their own opinions almost instantaneously. When all you see are words on a screen, it’s easy to forget there are people behind these words, people who can take those words the wrong way and get hurt from what is said. Simple comments can be misconstrued, which people can get fired up from without hearing both sides of the story. Social media can spark a fire, and I’ve learnt to stay out of it.
Not only is there drama in the wider reading community, but there is also endless drama within the blogging community. It’s easy to feel jealous, bitter or inadequate when you see bloggers receive ARCs, become BFFs with authors or publishers, or who seem to have the most followers. Maybe it’s ‘tall poppy’ syndrome, but most of us showcase our ARCs because we’re truly excited about what books we’ve received. It’s not to make anyone jealous or feel bad, but I know this is why many don’t do haul posts anymore.
That in itself, is a real shame. Why should we censor ourselves and contain our excitement for books, when books are what we blog about? There are always going to be a select few who ruin it for everyone else – those who constantly flaunt what they have with no regard for others. We can’t control what others share, but we can control who we follow, so I’m unfollowing anyone who makes me feel bad or inadequate – and I suggest you do too.
I see so many people getting upset, hurt, or wondering why they are just not good enough – it’s just not true! A blog is your personal space. It is an extension of your personality. You are never not good enough, just because other people are getting ARC’s or getting more comments or views. While there are always going to be people who are more successful than you, who are proud of what they do, or even those who show off and brag – this presents an opportunity for you to make a difference. Through their behaviour and their blogs, I found my blogger idols. I found who to emulate and who to avoid.
How do we solve all the negativity in the blogosphere today? By not adding fuel to the fire and realising what is important. There is more to blogging than getting ARCs, comments, followers and views. Do you love sharing an opinion on series? Did you start blogging to make friends in the community? Or do you just enjoy having your personal space where you can write whatever you want? Remember why you started blogging to begin with. That is the key to your enjoyment and longevity.
To those feeling down on the drama – there are some of us who choose to spread love and support to anyone who reaches out. We have to remember that as bloggers, we owe it to each other to treat each others – bloggers, authors, publishers, readers, with respect and the way we want to be treated. To not bitch, gossip, goad, or brag, treating others in a way that makes them feel hurt, inadequate or incomplete.
Blogging is hard enough without the controversy behind it. We are all here for the love of reading. We add enough pressure on ourselves to do better, to read more, to review more, to comment and socialise more. The last thing we need is facing criticism and hurt from all sides. I can see why bloggers have quit after all these things have been said and done, because this means they have less drama to deal with. I can see why people are afraid to join it and interact with others.
I love blogging, and I want to keep on loving it. And in order for me to keep on loving it, I want to be part of a community that is supportive, that celebrates each others successes, that helps lift each other up when they are down. No more bitching, no more blogger jealousy, no more bullying, showing off and most importantly – no more drama. Help others out, remember your live audience and don’t respond to people who make you feel upset. Because that is what makes us such a supportive and positive community – support and encouragement for each other’s passion.
I know why I’m here. I have a passion for reading and blogging, and I’m not going to let anyone make me quit doing something that I love. I have a voice and I want to share it, by always spreading positive words, support and encouragement.
Spread love not war, because that is the key to healthy, ongoing and successful blogging community.
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